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SEX-PURE-CENTRIC
By Felix | January 17, 2008
I heard a story today about a nine year old boy in primary who was caught in the toilet school with a girl of about same age with a condom, yes you heard me right nine year old with a condom! When taken in front of the school panel and asked what he was doing there with a condom, and his response was simple… “shey dem talk say if we no fit hold body make we use condom”.
Hmmm… your response is good as mine, was I shocked when I heard the story … YES, do I blame the boy … an emphatic NO!, but the truth is, that is how deep the sores of decay has eaten into our world. Today through the media and a host of other information from the western world, we keep accepting more. How much more are we ready to take before we start taking responsibility for our future leaders are or are we going to fold our arms the way our parents did and let things go more into decay?
I am taking the issue seriously, because before today I seriously agreed with the school of thought that says use your condom, but now, I think I have to rethink my stand on the issue and I would love to get your opinions on the issue too. Let’s take another example from the people who preach it as an occupation, “you see people who even talk about condom pay lip service to it or how do you explain a conference of over 600 sexologists and top sex educators in Washington DC in 1991 where the late president of American sex educators Dr. Theresa Crenshaw asked all of them how many would be willing to try the condom if they knew their partner was HIV positive? Only one person stood up. She said it was irresponsible for them to advocate what they weren’t willing to practice” … Praise Fowowe.
Today I was in a sex-pure-centric discussion class with Praise Fowowe facilitating, where we discussed a topic that a lot of us especially in this part of the world shy away from… SEX . I want to say its was very revealing, educative and informative for me, and I wish I had the privilege of this when I was younger, because I’m sure it would have made a world of difference for me today, but I believe it is never too late to make a decision and stand by it.
Sex education is one topic that needs to be taken seriously in our schools’ curriculum in this part of the world, and when I say sex education, I don’t mean “if you no fit hold body use condom”. I mean defining what sex means to these children and letting them know the truth, the implication of premarital sex and how to get disciplined enough to be able to abstain before marriage.
Before I go further into the details of what our discussion class was like, let me ask one question that I felt will be easy to answer before today. What is sex? If your 10year old son or daughter asked you this question today how would you best answer it for their understanding without shying away from the truth that it is also enjoyable? Before your brains go gaga, let me help with Praise’s definition, which was to me the
What is sex? Sex is a covenant exchange of life, love and pleasure between the man and the woman in the marriage environment for the purpose of unity, procreation and the expression of marital love” … Praise Fowowe. I used to take sex like a conquest, and I believed so much that, that is what it was and this is because of what I have allowed myself to learn from time, but now I think with a few more definitions from Praise has shed more light on sex, sexuality and the topic sex-pure-centric as a whole. When he took his time to break this down, it put more light on the topic, for me, I think the man is blessed. Take a look at a few more;
Female breast: The milk manufacturing factory of the woman with a specialized consumer-infants and acts as a secondary sex organ for sexual pleasure in the marriage environment.
Vagina: The sealed parcel of land of the woman (hymen) that must be exclusively preserved for the king’s cultivation in the marital season.
Semen : The man’s choice seed that guarantees the preservation of his future.
Within his few years of playing his role in raising a sexually pure generation and building the most desirable marriages, he has been able to toast 27prostitutes who have left the brothels especially at the capital of prostitution in Ajegunle the famous good evening street, assist the sexually abused, personally trained over 150 ex sex addicts and built a network of over 250 people who have subscribed to the sex-pure-centric vision and who meet weekly in Ajegunle to reinforce that believe. He has also started the sexpurecentric friendship centres on 66 streets in Ajegunle and planning to extend to 200 streets this year where youths meet weekly to talk about their sexuality issues and get help.
To subscribe to this network and be a part of history in reforming our generation, or to be in one this meetings taking place every Sunday, get in touch with me and I will hook you up with Praise, he is available to assist people and organizations attain competitive leverage through personal effectiveness.
The original African mothers never wore blouse or top, they tied wrapper and it was a taboo for the men to violate them then because the fear of the god of the land was the beginning of wisdom. Then what has happened to us? What we have become now was learned and can be unlearned because we were not born with it, let’s not sit and watch another generation go down the drain.
My thoughts are… If we all do a little, we can do a lot.
Topics: sex |
January 17th, 2008 at 5:41 am
I am really thrilled with the comments and phones calls I have received within 72hrs of starting my journey into becoming “the writer”. (lol)
I want to say a big thank you to all of you that make comments on the site, and trust me a word, sentence or whatever you post here is a big encouragement for me and it now means I am responsible for keeping my words of keeping it coming.
January 17th, 2008 at 6:00 am
Men this is a B O M B, at the beginning i got chills running down my spine,praying felix does not talk about our nasty details lol,i must confess that your grill of pure english is really enviable, dude keep the words pouring in and remember we are waiting for the exodus.
January 17th, 2008 at 6:01 am
We are not posting comments just because we want to make you feel good but because you keep amazing us with every post.
deoluakinyemi.com is already a hit and I believe felixekpa.com will follow suit. Go guy, you are truly unstopable!
January 17th, 2008 at 6:04 am
great job felix,
I was particular inspired by the definition of the vagina. If only people waited for the right season before they planted. What a great harvest and a lot less waste we’d have in this country.
Bless u bro
January 17th, 2008 at 6:25 am
wow, bro I think you are born to write, this is brilliant. Yes the talk was very expository and educative but tank you for capturing it in writing, it can serve as a reference point for later.
keep it up- the sex campaign and the writing!!
January 17th, 2008 at 7:29 am
I got the fright of my life as I pictured my kids in that place at the begining of your story. YES, it is very important to teach our kids not make the same mistakes we did. The body (both male and female) is so sacred and we do ugly things with it. The joy/pleasure of unhibited sex with your husband/wife can only be imagined. Unhibited in the sense that that is the only time God says yes to it. At any other time, for those of us who know, we’ve never really felt truly free have we? Keep up the good work Felix.
January 17th, 2008 at 7:49 am
Another mind blowing rightup again, if i was asked to lecture this, am sure i would have refused, tnks for making me come out of ma shell.i am more at ease talking freely about d subject.
January 17th, 2008 at 7:57 am
Great writing here felix.. First of all this 9 yrs old boy felt it was right to do what he was doing although we
know it wasnt, he was taught this behavior,he is what he has been taught,, teachings start at home not school, i worked as a para-educator for 4 yrs and i assure you that our children are what they have seen and been taught way before school yrs start.. we can teach them in sex education class’s the importance of sex/marriage. but when u are working with kids that have seen n been threw more then what u are teaching theres no headway here in learning.. the last yr that i taught in high school.. we had over 25 girls pregnent its a shame that parents dont realize the affect they have on their children at an early age way before they even enter into school years,and then want to blame others for their childs bad behavior when in fact learning starts at home. wink.. hagd all
January 17th, 2008 at 8:45 am
Arise o compatriots, Felix Ekpa calls Obey…..
I Pledge to myself, my God and My country…
We can finish the rest for ourselves
There’s some serious food for thought here.
January 17th, 2008 at 9:10 am
Felix,
I left yesterday’s meeting afraid for the younger generation, but it was just a wake up call; and with this coming from you, i know you do not only mean every word you’ve written, but you’re set to reeducate the youth and model the ideal.
Keep it up, I’m proud of you!
January 17th, 2008 at 10:02 am
Wonderful, this is great. What we do with this information is what counts. Its a decision we have to make that will change the course of history.
January 17th, 2008 at 10:19 am
Great topic,and well writen. I believe sex education should start from home,but our parents were too shy about the topic and most parents are still making the same mistakes. So the most convinient environment right now for kids to learn about sex are the schools and positive social groups like the one you are talking about. Cos most parents would never give thier kids indept explanations,but the teachers would. We all just have to try not to make those mistakes as parents.
January 17th, 2008 at 10:50 am
This is obviously good. You shouldnt have waited this long to give us all this stuff you are made of.i am inspired.pls dont waste this talent.You are blessed.
January 17th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
Ilove this so much……….honestly didnt know you could be this educative
I want to ask you a favour, that you never stop writing!…….please think about it
January 17th, 2008 at 4:05 pm
Felixo,
Though i did not attend the meeting, i have an idea already of what the meeting was about. Now i see why you keep yourself behind closed doors(reflecting).
Keep bringing the stuffs out.
January 18th, 2008 at 1:44 am
Speechlessly proud! Weldone!
January 18th, 2008 at 2:36 am
Bro, you have really hit the nail on the head,premarital sex like a canker worm have eaten deep into the fabric of our society not only Nigeria, Africa but the whole world at large, which invariably have lead to the increase in the spread of HIV/AIDS among our adolescents, increase in unwanted pregnancies which end up in unsafe abortions, rise in increase of conflict between contemporary social values. I seriously would want to be part of this social REVIVAL so as to partake in the fight against this hydra headed monster, to avoid this threatening dimension of our society and the nation at large.
January 20th, 2008 at 8:53 am
You are nothing short of amazing.
This is my first time on this site and the talk of sex caught my eyes. Was really moved.
You are touching lifes u naturally wont believe u can touch.
Weldone
January 21st, 2008 at 5:15 am
I pray this site will grow for people all over the world to learn something from. It’s really a brilliant topic to write on considering this part of the world where i live in where they promote sex even on the media, not minding the time it is been relayed.
It’s good we correct things now before the next generation falls victim to what we have imbibed. May God Save us from this sinful world.
January 21st, 2008 at 5:50 am
Dis article is so kool!!m thrilled,it makes sense knowning its actually coming from d bottom of ur heart!!d article dosent make sense just because uve become a good writter,but bcos its actually a battle we must all ride into in other to save dis generation which is almost lost!!
January 21st, 2008 at 7:19 am
@imelda,
i agree with the statement that parents are too shy to get into deep conversations with their children on sex.. i firmly believe there is a huge need for not only teaching our children, more over teaching adults how to be parents .. parenting skill classes are needed first n foremost..we bring these children into this world and then want others to teach them what is acceptable n what isnt.. learning starts at home first and is continued in the education system i find lazy parents that are too stuck in their own worlds then to care about what they are teaching their children thus pushing it off to strangers… we can blame society all we want when it comes to our childs behavior.. “he/she got it from what was shown on tv” or what they heard at the neighbors…. true these do have some affects on children but if the child is taught right from the beginng, they would already have that moral teaching in their soul n know that its not acceptable behavior.. PARENTING SKILL classes are needed first. hagd all
January 24th, 2008 at 10:34 am
Nice to know that people espicailly the young male are begining to view sex in the right light, meaning less seeing it as some conquest of sort.
As much as we all hope for a generation that waits till after marriage for sex,we cant escape the fact that the upcoming generation is in dire need of sex education.when i ask my kid brother who is 19yrs if he has a girlfriend im only seeking an avenue to talk to him about sex.
It s a good thing to know your concept of life is different keep it up and im sure alot of people will learn and gain from you.
January 27th, 2008 at 6:48 pm
Well i just got to know of this blog a few hours ago and i havent stopped reading and re-reading cos i dont think i got it all in. My parents never discussed sex with any of us children, you know now, you cant even think about it, how much less mention it. Imagine if we had been properly taught, it could have averted some of the things i got myself into. Thank God for Jesus and now Praise F!
January 27th, 2008 at 11:42 pm
@rolemodel,
AMEN